tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2399633159122258332.post1703547128527943110..comments2023-09-30T10:49:16.025-05:00Comments on In Pieces: The Journal Series: Some TechniquesJazzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733411405712601399noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2399633159122258332.post-64474172179364150982008-05-26T08:07:00.000-05:002008-05-26T08:07:00.000-05:00Lynn--I also agree with you on the idea of parents...Lynn--<BR/>I also agree with you on the idea of parents using altered point of view to understand their children. I can still recall how clearly I felt when I was fourteen and so confused and hating everything. I don't think my parents had a clue. My son is approaching that age now, and I hope that some of the journaling techniques I use, and my own memory of how I felt, will allow me to help Jazzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03733411405712601399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2399633159122258332.post-8494200629509065462008-05-26T08:02:00.000-05:002008-05-26T08:02:00.000-05:00Lynn--That's a very good point you bring up about ...Lynn--<BR/>That's a very good point you bring up about using altered point of view to justify or excuse someone else's bad behvior. And it's definitely something to watch out for.<BR/><BR/>When I was in college I was in an abusive relationship, and I found myself doing just that--justifying his behavior and making excuses not to leave him. I can't recall if I actually used altered point of viewJazzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03733411405712601399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2399633159122258332.post-19138756619479339472008-05-26T04:22:00.000-05:002008-05-26T04:22:00.000-05:00Some great ideas here, thanks!~shivSome great ideas here, thanks!<BR/>~shivMr B The Tech Teacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13740186235989815147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2399633159122258332.post-66763065219050596162008-05-25T19:38:00.000-05:002008-05-25T19:38:00.000-05:00For myself, I have found that trying to understand...For myself, I have found that trying to understand another person's point of view was not always healthy for me. I think that is because of whose point of view I was trying to understand. For me, it was a way to make excuses for other people's hurtful behavior and that blocked my access to my own real feelings about it. I was a mess without knowing the truth of my feelings. I think it was easy Spilling Inkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13970126156464922867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2399633159122258332.post-20520155060555133232008-05-25T11:22:00.000-05:002008-05-25T11:22:00.000-05:00Susan--I find the same with my brother. Altered p...Susan--<BR/>I find the same with my brother. Altered point of view helped me appreciate why he doesn't contact me very often (because of the way his life is set up, he is extremely busy, and is one of those people who only seems to be able to concentrate on one relationship at a time), but it has not helped me to understand how he can be content with the life he has built for himself (a lot of Jazzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03733411405712601399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2399633159122258332.post-23687238295275166072008-05-25T11:06:00.000-05:002008-05-25T11:06:00.000-05:00Jazz,I should probably use "altered point of view"...Jazz,<BR/>I should probably use "altered point of view" for my brother and sister. They were so horrible to my mother the last two years of her life and fought with me about her care. And they were awful to me when I didn't get well fast enough. I don't talk to either of them, but I think some problems can't be ironed out in writing. Even if I could figure out their point of view, I wouldn't likesbwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05881627992105939490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2399633159122258332.post-37824090274405885322008-05-25T10:49:00.000-05:002008-05-25T10:49:00.000-05:00Susan,I've also found all of those techniques very...Susan,<BR/>I've also found all of those techniques very helpful. Sometimes it's hard to just write it out in a free write, but if you have a different technique to try, it can give you a different perspective on things.<BR/><BR/>I've used altered point of view a lot in trying to figure out the best way deal with my reltationship (or lack thereof!) with my brother.Jazzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03733411405712601399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2399633159122258332.post-4610898805451875012008-05-25T10:41:00.000-05:002008-05-25T10:41:00.000-05:00Jazz,I written a number of the unsent letters, whi...Jazz,<BR/>I written a number of the unsent letters, which are very cathartic. For bipolar folks, it's a good way to deal with anger and irritability, without destroying relationships.<BR/><BR/>I've done lists without realizing it's a journaling technique. And I've also written dialogs. <BR/><BR/>When I was really sick, and felt God had abandoned me (I'm spiritual but not religious, but I've read sbwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05881627992105939490noreply@blogger.com